Thursday, January 7, 2010

Diagnosis

Danny does have high-functioning autism.

There, I said it, and it only made me cringe a little. It's getting easier since yesterday. By tomorrow, maybe I will no longer have bile rise in my throat when someone says something stupid like "autism is God's way of showing us how special our children are."

And maybe the platitudes that "everything happens for a reason" and "God gives us our children because we can help them" won't make me want to scream.

Hopefully, I will no longer want to cry when someone says, "Isn't it better now that you know?" or "It doesn't really change anything, does it?" even though I know it's true.

And I am praying that these words of the doctor will stop ringing in my ears, "You have a 1 in 20 chance that your other son could have autism."

We'll see.

13 comments:

Amy Jane said...

Patty, Right now, I'm giving you a huge mental hug and rubbing your back in a comforting fashion. Can you feel it? And I hope this doesn't fall under the category of "useless platitudes", but I truly, strongly do feel that Danny is going to be just fine, as are you. Is there anything else I can do or say to make you feel better? Call me if you want to talk...

Sarah said...

Take one child at a time, Patty. Arm yourself with knowledge and take comfort in the support system that surrounds you.

goodfountain said...

Hugs, Patty.

You know I've been there and know exactly how you feel. The words suck and just take time to process.

And for what it's worth -I say ignore what the doctor said about the chances for your 2nd son.

Mrsbear said...

Sending hugs your way, Patty. That's all I got.

a Tonggu Momma said...

This is me with no words. Because there really aren't any. Just know I'm thinking of you.

Natalie said...

You, Danny, and the rest of the family will be in my prayers. Here's to hoping that at least this diagnosis opens up new avenues of help for Danny.
Natalie

PS. Glad to hear that Hannah's antics on Christmas Day made you laugh. Sounds like you needed a good laugh to get yourself prepared for your big appointment.

Denise said...

no words...just hugs (like a Tonggu Momma).
Love you!

Lisa @ Boondock Ramblings said...

I wish I could say something right. I wish I could say something to make you feel better.

I don't know what to say right now.

Only that I'm thinking of you and will be.

Ginny Marie said...

I haven't been reading your blog for very long, but I can tell that not only does Danny have high-functioning autism, he also has an awesome mom who would go to the moon and back for him!

kia (good enough mama) said...

Hey you,

I don't know what the right words are. I can only imagine how tough it is to hear, though. I hope that you find peace sooner rather than later. Danny is wonderful, no matter what labels he's given. Just remind yourself of that, often.

Kia

Julie said...

Big Hugs

danette said...

Big hugs, Patty. Just saw this, I know those words are not easy to hear.

Elizabeth Channel said...

I know we've already talked about this but I did want to let you know that I just went back and read all your posts about this particular journey and it helped me see that my feelings are so similar to someone else's. My husband handles things so differently and tells me basically to get tough and move on, but that has been painfully difficult for me. I'm glad to have you (and so many others who commented above) on this journey : )

Blessings,

EC