And I totally believed her. Completely.
Now? Now, I am just worried. I still believe Dr. R, but I wonder what if it was too early to tell?
I don't know.
Still, there are behaviors that are troubling to me. Sort of. The fact is, I don't know if the behaviors should be troubling or not. For example, Danny is still really into Baby Einstein videos, especially Baby Bach. Pretty regularly, Danny will sing the songs on the video. There aren't words to the songs, but Danny hums and sings the parts and imitates the sounds found in the video.
This seems odd to me. But, I'm not sure if it is a bad sign. After all, he doesn't get upset if you interrupt him and he doesn't seem to do it for soothing purposes. In fact, typically, he sings when he is writing or doing some other activity that is quiet. The other day, I asked him why he sings these songs and his little face lit up with a broad smile as he said, "Because it's fun!" This behavior probably wouldn't bother me if he were singing a song with words (which he has started to do now that we own the Dizzy cd) so is it really that big of a deal? I don't know.
He still quotes movies quite a bit, but typically it is with Charlotte when they are playing. They often adapt the dialogue from a favorite cartoon (lately, Franklin) to whatever game they are playing. Again, this does not seem to be stimming behavior. Rather, he is using the quotes in his imaginative play.
Another behavior that I am not sure about is that he has taken to writing. A lot. This has been good, because his writing and grip have improved immeasurably. The thing is, he will write for a good 10-15 minutes and usually what he writes is all the names of his favorite videos, which include all the Baby Einstein movies (including all the many he hasn't seen) Bolt, Franklin, etc. While the other behaviors don't seem to be ones that help him calm down, writing definitely does. Every so often, when he has had enough of sensory stimulation, he will sit down and practice his writing. And he is always so proud of what he has written.
Other than that, the only other area that worries me still is his social development. He continues to lag behind kids his age in this area. He prefers to spend time with kids he already knows, but he will sometimes try to play with others at the pool or park. The thing is, he doesn't seem to know how to go about getting kids to play with him. I can tell sometimes that he wants so much to be included, but doesn't know what to do. I have tried coaching him with minimal success, but I am sure things like this take time. He is developmentally immature for his age, but also he has had a lot of speech delays, which I know affects social development.
Sorry, I know I am just rambling here, but it helps me sort through my concerns.
I just don't know if I should pursue getting a second opinion or not. My sister, of course, says I should because she claims Danny will get more services. I am not convinced this is true, however, because he already gets speech therapy and help from a special ed teacher. I don't think he would get more services because he is not having problems at school.
I suppose getting another evaluation wouldn't hurt, but I am hesitant because I have heard stories about doctors who observe a kid for 15 minutes and hand down a diagnosis. I cannot see how this could be accurate. After all, my kid (and I am sure this applies to most kids) behave differently in many different situations. If Danny is diagnosed with autism, I want to make darn sure the person doing the diagnosis knows what he/she is doing. Because I don't want to be blogging this time next year about my doubts regarding his diagnosis.
What would you do?